This: "So I proposed a new accountability for myself. To write a diary about my own felt experience in starting a business. As a late-diagnosed PDA adult. As a single dad. As a men’s work facilitator. As a scientist. As a soccer coach. I can at least describe what it’s like for me to move through these stages of healing and building, atop the complex landscape of my life."
I have struggled with authenticity too. Some might all this Impostor Syndrome. Through the unconditional love of my husband's cousin and her family, I finally realized that I can be who I really am and people will still love me. This has likely been a lifelong process. I have been working on myself all along. It seems the goal of therapy for 30+ years has been to uncover the "real me." I am here now. It's wonderful!
Yes, I find people respond more positively to me when I have the courage to speak my authentic thoughts and be my authentic self.
And also, being my authentic self means letting go of the masks that are covering who I am. But those masks are what I've used to keep me safe. So authenticity often feels unsafe, even though in my experience it's really the masks that ultimately aren't safe. Dropping the masks is like dropping armour. Being authentic feels like being naked. But without the armour I can finally move naturally.
This: "So I proposed a new accountability for myself. To write a diary about my own felt experience in starting a business. As a late-diagnosed PDA adult. As a single dad. As a men’s work facilitator. As a scientist. As a soccer coach. I can at least describe what it’s like for me to move through these stages of healing and building, atop the complex landscape of my life."
I have struggled with authenticity too. Some might all this Impostor Syndrome. Through the unconditional love of my husband's cousin and her family, I finally realized that I can be who I really am and people will still love me. This has likely been a lifelong process. I have been working on myself all along. It seems the goal of therapy for 30+ years has been to uncover the "real me." I am here now. It's wonderful!
Yes, I find people respond more positively to me when I have the courage to speak my authentic thoughts and be my authentic self.
Thanks for sharing, as always PJ❣️
Marsha J-Schmid
And also, being my authentic self means letting go of the masks that are covering who I am. But those masks are what I've used to keep me safe. So authenticity often feels unsafe, even though in my experience it's really the masks that ultimately aren't safe. Dropping the masks is like dropping armour. Being authentic feels like being naked. But without the armour I can finally move naturally.